On Watching, Wishing and Coming Back

 I don’t know if it's a common experience, watching fictional characters and comparing their life to your own. See everything that they have and you only wish you had, making you feel outright bad. But you continue watching anyway, cause you need some sort of escape. Maybe we find a way to live thorugh them, however briefly may it be. We get bored with our lives and seek change, even if only imaginary. Its only natural. The human mind is astonishing in its ability to adapt. And when it adapts, the most extraordinary of circumstances can become mundane.

Does the comparison make you feel bad? Thinking about how your circumstances could be different if only things in your life had transpired differently. Does that feeling linger? Long after youve turned off the TV. Maybe it does maybe it doesn't. Maybe its just me. I'm anxiety prone. Little things can make me feel bad, but I try to not stay in that place for long.

You have to make do with what you have. You can seek escape. But its equally important to come back to reality. Even better if you can come back with lessons on how to make your reality better.

Fantasies spice up the facts and facts moderate the fantasies. The two must be allowed to interact and build upon each other for the completion of the wholesome cuisine that is life.

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  1. UnknownNovember 13, 2021 at 3:51 AM

    Nice!! Yes it's true that the characters do linger on us and one does starts to compare and contrast. That's the big reason I don't really like fictions much.

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    1. Alan TombNovember 13, 2021 at 11:58 AM

      Well non fiction isn't better tbh. Reading about real people makes the comparison and by extention the feeling of lacking-in-life even more real.

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  2. Wis99November 13, 2021 at 5:40 AM

    I think its the opposite for me, when i see a relatable character do better than me I'm just happy for him. But when he makes same mistakes like me, it becomes hard to watch as I'm screaming inside😂. So even if I'm constantly looking for relatable fiction, I still stay in reality i think

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    1. Alan TombNovember 13, 2021 at 12:07 PM

      Compartmentalization is certainly an enviable trait. Not allowing the fact and the fantasy to blend together is certainly something most of us can benefit from. But one isn't more real than the other. Fantasies spice up the facts and facts moderate the fantasies. The two must be allowed to interact in a controlled and thoughtful manner.

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